I was Bar Mitzvaded in April of 1962, like many Bar Mitzvah boys I studied my Tuchas off for 6 hrs a day of learning to sing the Haf Torah and all the trimmings.I was ever bit as good a a young Moisher Oysher I was home schooled by my Great Uncle Phil Silver who happed to grew up with Moisher Oysher and went to the same Shule in Montreal with him… His younger Brother Daniel Silver Himself was a Famous Big Time Chassan from Montreal.
My parents like many Parents in the 50′s and 60′s wanted to impress everyone so they rented a catering hall that they couldn’t afford.Each and every Bar Mitsvah boys mother would put on her mink stole and utter the words Hoo- Ha look at me while feining wealth as they lined their pockets with all the gift mone inded for their son .How in the world can they pay for it you might ask? Simple.. They kept all the cash gifts and bonds and basically handed it over to the catering Hall ..If they wanted to throw a big affair Guess What? They should have used their own money or taken out a loan at the bank. Those gifts did belong to them..Shame on all of those Parents who spoiled their sons Big Day.
Every Jewish man in my age bracket knows what I’m referring to. It s just not right.I tell everyone who is not Jewish that if their invited to a Bar mitzvahs to ask the father of the Bar Mitzvah Boy “Are you letting the Bar Mitsvah Boy keep all of the Gifts”? If they say no… then I don’t go because the parents are making a shame out of a sacred act. My parents and all those who stole their kid’s Bar Mitvah gelt Fashaired our Simca. Sad to say keeping all cash gifts and bonds was buisness as usual for that entire Generation of Jewish Parents..